What is recovery….

Recovery is an adventure worthy of all the courage, time, effort and faith you can muster. Alone it is so daunting that most folks give up and go back to whatever it was that is controlling their lives. Childhood wounds are the crux of the development of the addiction, and often need extra help working though to healing. A therapist trained in addiction treatment may be the next step.

What can therapy do…

A number of benefits are available from participating in therapy. Therapists provide support, problem-solving skills, and enhanced coping strategies for issues such as depression, anxiety, relationship troubles, unresolved childhood issues, grief, stress management, and relapse prevention. Many people also find that therapists are a tremendous asset to managing personal growth, interpersonal relationships, family concerns, marriage issues, and the hassles of daily life and remain in recovery. Therapists can provide a fresh perspective on a difficult problem or point you in the direction of a solution. The benefits you obtain from therapy depend on how well you use the process and put into practice what you learn.


What is addiction…

Addiction: self-induced changes in neurotransmission that result in behavior problems. Addiction is the use of a substance and/or an activity for the purpose of lessening pain or augmenting pleasure, by a person who has lost control over the rate, frequency, or duration of its use, and whose life has become progressively unmanageable as a result.

A pathological relationship with a mood-alerting substance: the “using” addictions.

A pathological relationship with a mood-altering experience: the “doing” addictions

What is necessary for recovery….

People in recovery need a safe haven or a secure base where they can learn from others how to stop whatever is destroying their lives and their relationships. They need emotional refueling and support. The addict must recognize that their brains must heal for recovery. They need to develop the capacity for honesty and for self-discovery, self-regard, self-respect and self-care. Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again expecting a different result; recovery is learning new healthy practices.

What is addiction like…

The root of addiction is a pervasive, deeply felt sense of detachment and alienation. The core beliefs of the addict are based on an impaired capacity to trust. Addiction can arise from a brain disorder, be the result of learning and culture or an impaired childhood, but it is primarily an attempt to self-medicate. Addictive behavior is an attempt to relieve suffering, an attempt to cope. It is not about pleasure seeking.

Internet, Smart Phone, Computer, & Gaming
Addiction 12-—Step Group


  • Are you ever unable to limit the amount of screen time you use?

  • Do you neglect your responsibilities at home, work, or schooi because of your screen time?

  • Do you sometimes binge on screen use?

  • Do you feel a need, compulsion, or craving for screen time?

  • Do you feel a need to hide or lie about your time on the screen?

  • Do you set time limits and then break them, spending hours longer than intended?

  • Do you have problems with relationships, your job, or money because of your screen use?

  • Are you losing interest in activities and hobbies that used to bring pleasure?

  • When you’re away from a screen, do you spend a lot of time thinking about using them?

  • Do you have few if any interests or" social activities that don’t revolve around screen time?

  • Do you blow off social events or call in sick for screen time?

  • Do you get irritated or defensive when people suggest you spend too much time at screens?

  • When upset, do you go to a screen to relax, soothe yourself, or avoid something?

  • Has a family member or friend expressed concern or complained about your screen time?

  • Do you skip meals or lose hours of sleep because you don't want to stop?

  • I Have your hours spent at a screen increased over time?

  • Have you risked harming yourself or others (like looking at a screen while driving?

If you answer YES to at least one of these questions, you might want to attend one of our meetings, call David L (40845139350) for more information.

Meeting Details:

We meet every Weds 7:00-8:00pm at Holy Cross Lutheran Church, Los Gatos Almaden Road, Los Gatos. CA 95032

In front of the church is a marquee (red above and white below), Beside it is a concrete walkway. Go down the walkway to the end, then enter the door in front of you. Go down the hallway to its end. The last room (with 2 doors) is our meeting room.




Am I a Sex Addict....

PATHOS Test. How many of the following apply to you:



Do you often find yourself preoccupied with sexual thoughts?


Do you hide some of your sexual behavior from others?


Have you ever sought therapy for sexual behavior you did not like?

Hurt Others

Has anyone been hurt emotionally because of your sexual behavior?

Out of Control

Do you feel controlled by your sexual desire?


When you have sex, do you feel depressed afterwards?

If you answered YES to any of these questions, seek resources for help today.


  • Do you have a gambling problem?

  • Can you think of the money you lose as the cost of your entertainment?

  • Can you set a dollar limit and stick to It?

  • Can you set a time limit and stick to it?

  • Can you leave when you reach your limit whether you’re winning or losing?

  • Can you not borrow ones to gamble?

  • Can you not let gambling interfere with or become a substitute for family, friends or work?

  • Can you not chase loses as chances are you’ll lose even more trying to recoup your losses?

  • Can you not use gambling as a way to cope with emotional or physical pain?

Did you find that these warning signs indicate that you may have a problem gambling? If so, then call 1-800-GAMBLER or visit:


www.problemgambling.ca.gov for helpful resources.

Are you an Alcoholic?

Answer the following questions as honestly as you can:

  • Do you lose time from work due to drinking?

  • Is drinking making you home life unhappy?

  • Do you drink because you are shy with other people?

  • Is drinking affecting your reputation?

  • Have you ever felt remorse after drinking?

  • Have you gotten into financial difficulties as a result of drinking?

  • Do you turn to lower companions and an inferior environment when drinking?

  • Does you drinking make you careless of your families welfare?

  • Has your ambition decrease since drinking?

  • Do you crave a drink at a definite time daily?

  • Do you want to drink the next morning?

  • Does drinking cause you to have difficulty sleeping?

  • Has your efficiency decreased since drinking?

  • Is drinking jeopardizing your job or business?

  • Do you drink to escape from your worries or trouble?

  • Do you drink alone?

  • Have you ever had a complete loss of memory from drinking?

  • Do you ever drink to build up your self-confidence?

  • Have you ever been to the hospital or institution as a result of drinking?